Separation, divorce and co-parenting, with your children in mind
Ending a relationship is one of the hardest transitions a person can go through. I help adults cope with separation and divorce, and help parents find a calmer way to raise their children from two homes.
Experience that keeps children at the centre
For several years I worked as a clinician with Ontario's Office of the Children's Lawyer, preparing custody and access assessments for the courts, and for a decade in child protection. I have seen what helps children through a separation, and what makes it harder.
What we can work on
- Coping with grief, anger and fear after a separation
- Deciding whether to stay or to separate
- Co-parenting communication that stays calm and child-focused
- Helping children adjust to two homes
- New partners and blended families
What helps children most
Every family is different, but a few things make a real difference for children during a separation:
- Keeping adult conflict away from them, including in front of them and through them
- Telling them together, if possible, in simple and honest words
- Keeping routines steady in both homes
- Letting them love both parents without feeling disloyal
- Reassuring them, more than once, that the separation is not their fault
Questions about separation and co-parenting
Can co-parents meet with you together?
Often, yes. When both parents want to communicate better about the children and it is safe to meet together, joint sessions can focus on practical plans and calmer communication. If there has been abuse or ongoing fear, we would talk about whether separate sessions are safer.
We have not decided whether to separate. Can you help?
Yes. Some couples come to therapy to decide whether to stay together. We can look at what has happened, what each of you wants, and what it would take to repair the relationship, without pushing you in either direction.
Who do you work with?
Adults (18 and over) and couples. I do not currently offer therapy for children or teens.
Reaching out is often the hardest step
Book a free 15-minute call to ask your questions and see if we are a good fit, with no pressure to continue.